Who’s laughing at Romeo & Juliet?

18 Oct

Of late I’ve come to notice a rather disturbing trend here. My cousin brother broke up with his 3rd girlfriend in a matter of just 2 months and how does he do that? By updating his relationship status on his Facebook profile, it’s just as simple as that! That really astounded me big time. Loyalty, chivalry, fidelity, passion, – all now seemed like virtues of people from a lost world, say like Atlantis for something. Where has all the world’s passion gone? Where have these virtues disappeared to?

The dawn of the digital age, is perhaps to be blamed for this. Back then, the very term ‘love’ used to make our hearts flutter, there was something magical about that very term. And hey, just because I said ‘back then’, please don’t date me back to the Jurassic era or something. I’m talking about only a few years ago, say around 4-5 years ago or so, when technology hadn’t yet taken over mankind the way it has now, by storm. Today every second person you stumble upon, comes with a smart phone that is ever connected to the internet & the social networking sites. With this being the case, our youngsters today are so prone to getting into relationships, even before understanding that term correctly. Relationships are happening very fast and are dying an even faster death. Youngsters today cannot tell the difference between lust & love, and often mistake one for another. Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Whatsapp, etc are now connecting people like never before. Nobody from the past, is lost forever anymore. I recently stumbled upon my classmate from kindergarten on Facebook, how incredible is that!

Anyways, there used to be a time when relationships had to be carefully nurtured, in order for it to grow & thrive. The ones in love would long for just a glimpse of their loved ones. They’d wait endlessly to meet their loved ones, say, outside their college, at the bus station, by the roadside to get glimpse of their loved one who would peek out of her window stealthily. Their next meet would seem like years before it finally happened.  A love letter that ran into several pages or a photograph of a loved one, was treasured forever & stolen kisses were indeed the sweetest.

Today, a video chat is all it takes to establish a connection. Pings and instant messages that rarely communicate feelings, have today replaced letters of love. These pings & SMSs are all gone & are deleted before the next sunrise in order to make for some memory on the phone. Nothing lasts forever these days, not even love, for it comes with a very short validity time. With this being the case, where is the question of passion filled love letters or stolen kisses, when one night stands have become the order of the day?  Almost every college kid that I’ve come across today would have changed at least 3 partners before even completing just 2 years of college. You are looked at like an alien or some lunatic if you have stuck on to the same partner for more than 2 years. They term you a ‘Loser’,  a fancy word that a lot of youngsters like using these days. For them, even partners should be changed in accordance to the latest fashion & trends. If it is currently ‘in’ to have a ‘coy’ boyfriend or a girlfriend, then that’s what they have, but, when the trends change and if it is considered ‘cool’ to have a ‘wild’ partner, then that’s what they set out to hunt and get themselves for. They are now changing their partners as often as they would probably change their profile pictures on social networking sites. Guys and girls today want everything that is fashionable and that includes a trophy partner cum arm candy too. No wonder then, that Guys don’t passionately chase girls anymore ( I mean, in the good sense & in a romantic way), they are not even trying hard to woo the girls, ‘cos there are so many of them on a platter to choose from, waiting desperately to make them their boyfriends. Sensing this new trend, even these sites offer a wide number of relationship statuses to choose from like- it’s complicated, in an open relationship, separated, confused, in a love triangle, quadrangle, etc.

While some get into relationships just because its a ‘cool’ thing to do, some do it ‘cos they are desperate to prove a point to their friends and peers, some others do it just because they’ve got nothing better to do, it’s like – ‘i’m so bored! so why not get myself a boyfriend or a girlfriend’ types. And even before they realise, they are both headed to splits villa, in the shortest possible route that would take them there!

Weird parties that we had never heard of before, have now come into existence like ‘the break up party’, ‘the single again bash’, and ‘celebrate divorce’ parties etc., to celebrate a split from your partner or spouse!!! Good God, where are we heading, abandoning our ethics & morals? I’m not exaggerating when I say that these days, I haven’t seen a single, young relationship that has lived to celebrate its 2ndyear anniversary. People tell me that they split with their boyfriend or girlfriends, as casually as how they’d tell if they missed their bus, a bus that is available every 10 minutes.  This is something that I can never understand. Passion is nonexistent in relationships these days.

Shakespeare would have become a butt of these youngsters’ jokes & ridicules had he written his classic -‘Romeo & Juliet’ now & had he been around today. Thank God, he left the planet long before the rise of the digital hysteria. As if short term relationships are not enough, our youngsters these days want to try their hand at multi-tasking. And how do they do that? By two timing or sometimes three & even four timing their partners! Smart, aren’t they? At this rate I’m seriously beginning to suspect if the genes of our future generations would get altered forever. Altered to be unable to recognize or understand love, fidelity, loyalty & their meanings;  lines like ‘love you forever’ which they’d perhaps come across in some very old books. ‘Love’ and ‘forever’ according to them, just don’t go well together.

’til death do us part’

There used to be vows like- ‘till death do us part’. Today the same needs to edited to read or say ‘till a Tweet or an updated Facebook status do us part’! It is but a sad reality today. I wouldn’t be surprised if in future, people would look in awe, amazement and total surprise with their jaws dropped down to the ground, at the exhibit photographs of couples who lived together forever (till their deaths), like how we today look at the fossilized remains of a tyrannosaurus, mammoth or some other long perished species.

Meanwhile, I see- love, passion & romance; on their last legs, bidding us a sad adieu standing at the edge of our earth’s surface. But I am not reciprocating to them. No, not yet, for I don’t want to let them go. But at the same time I hope our youngsters don’t knock them all off the edge!

Long live the three! And please be around for as long the earth is…

28 Responses to “Who’s laughing at Romeo & Juliet?”

  1. yomicfit October 26, 2012 at 1:35 am #

    Yes, I agree that technology can be such a step backwards at times.
    Yet, a good thing when I can’t see my sis in Australia but can FaceTime.
    I think it can be good for certain parts of our relationships,
    The ability to stay connected no matter the distance through by Internet.
    And match.com (and others) would probably argue they have brought love together via their website.
    But…I get what you are saying

    • Teju October 26, 2012 at 8:26 am #

      Thanks, I’m really glad you do. Undoubtedly, technology is helping in bringing people closer but how effective it is in keeping them that way, is something that we need to wait and watch. Talk about changing times and their side effects! Have a great day 🙂

  2. heartflow2012 October 26, 2012 at 4:17 am #

    Dear Singing ~ I know what you mean. I just posted something from Krishnamurti “What is Love?” that made me think of this whole development – and shows me that the questions he raises are still the same ones we have to ask ourselves today – you will enjoy it:

    warm regards,

    • Teju October 26, 2012 at 8:29 am #

      Thank you and I loved your post ‘What is love’! 🙂 I’ve been reflecting on this issue for quite some time now & your post did manage to give me some answers…

      • heartflow2012 November 18, 2012 at 7:26 am #

        I love Krishnamurti! He ha helped me to clarity several times…

      • Teju November 18, 2012 at 9:31 am #

        I’m sure he had, Tomas, such a great soul that he is. Your love for him reflects in your posts…

  3. mrubru October 26, 2012 at 9:34 am #

    Wow, I can’t believe someone has actually written what I’m going through right now. I’m one of those people addicted to technology and FB and Whatsapp. And, even though, I can’t survive without them, I feel stuck. I do. I wish I could get out of them. I wish, I could really wink at my guy and not just send a smiley which actually conveys nothing. I wish, I could talk to him and hear his voice instead of just reading his messages. But, hey, he prefers to text, so I got to text, too.
    Funny thing is, I have never been in a relationship longer than 5 months, even though, I have tried my best to make all of them work. They just crumble before I know it.
    N, even though, I tell everyone casually, “Yeah, we broke up. It din’t work out.” I’m actually crying buckets for days together.
    Passion and loyalty and love haven’t died yet. People just prefer to hide them, so that they don’t end up looking lame, in the process.
    Awesome post. It really highlights what is wrong with today’s world.

    • Teju October 26, 2012 at 10:01 am #

      You said it! I know! how can a silly emoticon ever replace something deeply romantic say like- sitting with your guy, face to face & looking into each others’ eyes and saying nothing at all? Phew! Mrubru, I’m feeling much better now & was so relieved when you said our ‘awesome trio’ haven’t deserted us. Thanks for reassuring. Maybe, it’s just that we are being too hasty with our relationships.True, that it has become a very fake world out there with people constantly seeking shelter behind the masks that they wear. To love, passion & loyalty! Cheers! 🙂

      • mrubru October 26, 2012 at 10:48 am #

        Cheers! 🙂

  4. AnilCm October 26, 2012 at 3:06 pm #

    What you said is true. Don’t know where we are heading to? In fact we are living in an age of “curse of technology” which pushing the civilization to an another ‘dark age’ where there won’t exist love, passion or romance. This present age of technology has made everything Cheap.

    • Teju October 26, 2012 at 3:13 pm #

      Absolutely! couldn’t agree more. Like you rightly said, the term ‘love’ is being used so lightly these days, that it sounds really cheap…

      • AnilCm October 26, 2012 at 3:40 pm #

        every thing is open nowadays which make the life complicated rather than improving. We had curiosities in our times but now everything is open. Technology has bad sides always but now it is affecting the youngsters and as a result the finer feelings are no more in them. Thats why i said curse of technology.

      • Teju October 26, 2012 at 8:49 pm #

        Very true, totally agree!

      • AnilCm October 26, 2012 at 9:05 pm #

        I enjoyed the article because you said my words in that. I think, in future love, passion, romance will be available in the dictionary only. I totally agree with you. Thats why I have re-blogged it in my blog.

      • Teju October 26, 2012 at 9:17 pm #

        Thank you so much for this wonderful gesture Anilji. I’m so glad that you liked it enough to re-blog the same! 🙂

  5. AnilCm October 26, 2012 at 3:16 pm #

    Reblogged this on Anil Cm's Blog and commented:
    An article, well written by my blogger friend about yesteryear’s love, passion & romance and what Digital age /technology of today has changed the meaning of those words in this generation. Read more ….

    • Teju October 26, 2012 at 9:18 pm #

      I’m humbled & touched by your gesture. Thank you so much! 🙂

      • AnilCm October 26, 2012 at 9:28 pm #

        You are welcome !

  6. Bemse October 26, 2012 at 7:41 pm #

    love is a special feeling that we share n value with each other and it comes from deep inside our heart , hope present generation realize meaning of true love someday

    • Teju November 2, 2012 at 2:20 pm #

      Very true, totally agree!

  7. Sushmit October 27, 2012 at 11:59 pm #

    “Guys don’t passionately chase girls anymore ( I mean, in the good sense & in a romantic way)”

    This, missy, was fantastic XD

    • Teju November 2, 2012 at 2:20 pm #

      Thanks Sushmit! 🙂

  8. RAMU DAS November 6, 2012 at 8:47 pm #

    “in a love triangle, quadrangle, etc.” hahaha!! 😛

    Well, I absolutely agree with all your words here, I find every word very thought provoking and relevant to the present situation, the generation we are living in.

    But, then, I wouldn’t put the full blame on technology (though it has a lot of disadvantages), the problem is with the mindset of our younger generation (in that case I maybe included as well). The problem arises when we consider the film-stars as our role-models, and by this I don’t mean all the film-stars. I’m referring to only those who form a relationship today and break it in the next seven days. The trend has emerged with the acts of the superstars of Hollywood, landing it to the minds of the super-duper stars of Bollywood, and ultimately to our neighborhood.

    • Teju November 7, 2012 at 8:41 am #

      Very true Ramu, several factors have made today’s youngsters what they are. And I totally agree with you, film stars are being blindly followed. Today’s kids don’t have the patience to even pause and examine the difference (which is usually huge) between their film’s stars reel life to their real ones. Many have cases slapped on them (read: one of the most popular actors today). How many so called ‘stars’ that we know of today are morally & ethically strong? Like you said, not many. The sad truth is that it has become easier than ever before to fool our youth today.
      Anyways, I’m glad that you stopped by, pal. Have a happy day! 🙂

  9. Sudha Shashwati January 9, 2013 at 9:30 pm #

    I could connect with everything that you said very well and having been brought up on tales of knights on shining armors, classics and poetry of the Victorian age, I do find today’s relationships pretty hollow and superficial. Eternal constancy, singular love, clandestine glances, stolen kisses, sweet nothings, passionate letters of love…all sound like treasures of the bygone ages…no more realistic in the present age of instant messaging and video chats.
    I’m 20 and yeah, I’m hooked to social networking and other such blessings of technology but I know how to keep it separate from my love life 😉

    I’m here for the first time and I must say you have a new regular follower Ma’am 🙂

    • Teju January 9, 2013 at 10:49 pm #

      Thank you, dear Sudha. I’m really happy to have you on board. Looking forward to seeing you around more often. Happy new year to you & family! 🙂

    • Teju January 9, 2013 at 10:49 pm #

      Thank you, dear Sudha. I’m really happy to have you on board. Looking forward to seeing you around more often. Happy new year to you & family! 🙂

  10. ... January 29, 2014 at 7:33 am #

    Relationships should be taken seriously, it’s a pity that some people don’t see it that way. Hope you have a good day.

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