If only farewells could talk…

19 Nov

Over the past few days, I’ve been and still am wondering if our lives would have been any different from the way it is now, if only farewells could talk… confused? So am I!

In the course of my life, I’ve met many people and hoped that they’d stay in it forever. Hoped they’d never leave. When I had met my grandmother last year, to whom I was most attached to as a granddaughter, and had spent many a tender moments with her before bidding a casual farewell, hoping I’d meet her soon… I wish that farewell had told me- ‘hey, this would be the last time you’re going to bid her a farewell…’, I would have done everything possible by me to stay by her longer, would have cancelled my holiday trip & held on to her, would have told her how much I loved her… but this isn’t how things work & no one warned me that it would be the last time I’d be seeing her… and I never got my chance to express my love to her.

On the last day of our college, I was literally inconsolable from the thought that I’d  be missing my friends forever. I wished I could do college forever & I was heartbroken when I had bade my friends a teary farewell, despite mutual promises of staying in touch… if only that farewell told me ‘hey chill, this is not the end, you’re all gona soon stay connected like never before & in only a matter of few years…’, i wouldn’t have spent several months trying hard to fight of my separation blues. A million thanks to technology, Facebook, Whatsapp, etc, I now have almost all my dear friends back, including some from my kindergarten… well, almost all, ‘cos I still miss one of them very dearly. I’m sure we would have gotten back in touch too, if only… if only he continued to exist…

A casual meet one fine day and an equally casual farewell we exchanged, before he left in his car but not before turning and looking at me, till i was out of his sight. If only this farewell had warned me that this was the last time I was ever going to see him… if only… i would have done everything in strength to stop him that day, to ensure he did not go ahead with his disastrous plan, would have stopped him from taking his life… if only, if only…

Some farewells that we think are really casual & temporary ones could be of a permanent nature even before you realize and those that you think are permanent may not really be one… if only… if only these farewells spoke, would our lives have been any different? Think about it…

Since no one can predict the nature of a farewell, let us ensure we express ourselves fully to the ones we love, tell them how much we care for & love them, tell them how much they mean to us, for we never know when we might lose them forever and sometimes without even getting a chance to bid them a farewell.



22 Responses to “If only farewells could talk…”

  1. Where God Takes Me November 19, 2013 at 5:56 am #

    I’m so happy to see you here! And there is so much wisdom in your words…”[S]ome farewells that we think are really casual and temporary ones could be of a permanent nature…” It’s vital to let the ones we love know so every moment of every day. And to let them know how much we cherish them.

    Warm congratulations on your completion of your studies!

    • Teju November 19, 2013 at 8:19 pm #

      Thank you so much, dearest Vivian and I’m sooo happy to see you after a long time too! I had missed you a lot in these days and you were always on my mind… to see a message from you always, instantly brings a smile to my face 🙂

  2. Lopa November 19, 2013 at 1:43 pm #

    Very aptly said, Teju! Farewells can be so hard at times. People who are special stay in our hearts forever.

    • Teju November 19, 2013 at 8:14 pm #

      Absolutely Lopa, there indeed are some wounds that time can never heal…

  3. Anil Cm November 19, 2013 at 3:29 pm #

    Welcome back! Farewlls at times are painful and also unpredictable.

    • Teju November 19, 2013 at 8:14 pm #

      Thank you, Anilji!

      • Anil Cm November 19, 2013 at 8:16 pm #

        Welcome Teju!!
        Happy to see you back!

  4. Sumithra Sriram November 20, 2013 at 1:32 pm #

    You are back with a bang!! A very touching post… I remember thinking along the very same lines sometime back. You put it all so beautifully together!
    Stay in touch!! 🙂

    • Teju November 23, 2013 at 3:41 pm #

      Thank you, dearest Sumi! I’m so glad to be back in touch with you, after all it has been such a long time! Just can’t wait to check your spectacular blog out… Will catch you at your space soon!
      Lots & lots of love & hugs, Teju 🙂

  5. Dilip November 23, 2013 at 1:10 pm #

    A lovely read and to ponder!

    • Teju November 23, 2013 at 3:35 pm #

      Thank you for the kind words, Dilip.

  6. Photographs by Peter Knight November 24, 2013 at 6:31 pm #

    I’m really happy to be reading your words again Teju; I hadn’t realised how long its been!
    I hope you are well and happy.
    I have very similar feelings about my own grandmother who died (aged 99 years!) in 2009. I look at her picture fairly often and regret not having been there more for her in her last years, We live a busy life; long work hours, children to bring up etc I still wish I’d made more of an effort to drive the 100 or so miles to see her more often than I did.
    Your words are wise one’s Teju. I still drop my two girls off at school each morning and without fail, tell them both that I love them dearly. If I’ve been angry or had to tell them off for anything that morning, I always make my peace with them before they go through the gates and hug and kiss them both. (I don’t know how long before I start to embarrass my 9 year old in front of her classmates though!)
    Once again, its nice to hear from you (thanks for visiting my blog 🙂 Please let me know how you are.

    • Teju November 25, 2013 at 8:10 pm #

      Thank you, Peter and I’m so happy to be back in touch with you too.
      I’ve somehow not been able to come to terms with the fact that my grandmother is no more, especially because I lost her when I had least expected it (she was very healthy, even at the age of 98!)
      Just like you, if ever I’ve been mad or angry with my loved ones, I always make it a point to make peace with them before the day ends.
      Thanks again for stopping by and do visit India, during Diwali (since you mentioned that you’ve never been here during this festival of lights). You will surely enjoy it! 🙂

  7. Inspired and pretty November 29, 2013 at 8:26 am #

    Such beautiful words, so sad but so true. A beautiful post 🙂

    • Teju November 29, 2013 at 9:01 am #

      Thank you so much. I’m glad that you stopped by!

  8. ShethP November 30, 2013 at 8:07 pm #

    Thank you for this lovely post! It was a great reminder… I keep in mind that life is unpredictable and make it a point to say a small ‘take care’ or ‘love you’ to my parents when I say goodbye. It’s the little things that matter. 🙂

    • Teju December 1, 2013 at 8:07 am #


  9. Wendell A. Brown December 4, 2013 at 11:05 pm #

    Teju, reading this message was so very timely, I was trying to remember the last time I spoke to certain friends and sisters here on my blog, I lost a lot of my contact information and I am continuing the search for contacts. And now with a new blog, it is a little harder. . One answer came pleasantly with your visit. It made my day. Your message is a very beautiful one, I always feel blessed to embrace your life-light in this world! Hugs and blessings always to you dear sister!

  10. Miss Book Thief September 26, 2015 at 10:36 pm #

    So beautifully written. 🙂

  11. Kavita Jain January 17, 2017 at 6:33 pm #

    nice post….
    thanks for sharing

  12. Sudhir Chauhan September 14, 2017 at 9:19 pm #

    truly Nostalgic….. I was in Boarding at chail and when passing out day came of 12th class… we use to cry whole day….. cannot forget those memories…. your post took me back to old days…..

  13. ... March 18, 2018 at 1:28 am #

    How are you doing now. I hope everything is ok. Hi from New Zealand.

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